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Playing Favorites – Should You Admit You Love One Child More?

Yesterday, as I was scrolling down my twitter timeline I came across a Babble article entitled, Mom Confession: I Think I Love My Son A Little Bit More. It immediately got my attention and I read the article. I had many gut reactions to the article, and apparently so has the entire interweb. The article has caused a “shitstorm” so I figured I’d throw in my two cents.

In the article, the mom writes that she favors her son more than her daughter.  She says stuff like this:

There are moments – in my least sane and darkest thoughts – when I think it wouldn’t be so bad if I lost my daughter, as long as I never had to lose my son (assuming crazy, dire, insane circumstances that would never actually occur in real life).  I know that sounds completely awful and truly crazy.

Now, I know it’s unfair to paraphrase and quote the craziest part of the piece – you can go read the whole article (I linked it above).   But this my blog post, and I’ll do what I want to.  So, after the mom posted that insanity, she got a massive amount of comments – mostly negative – about her post. Then she fired back and admitted that she’s not a perfect mother (does that even exist?)

So, first off, I think it’s terrible that she favors one child over another – but I’m not here to judge.  Besides, you can’t fault someone for how they feel.  But, I can fault her for putting those feelings out to the public (along with a photo of herself with her less-loved daughter).  First off, one day that poor girl will google her mom’s name and she will find that article.  What a terrible way to find out what you thought was true all along.

Second, you can’t say something like “I love one child more” and not expect people to get their panties in a bunch.  You’re not supposed to say stuff like that.  You can feel it, just don’t say it – online – in public – for the world to see.  It seems to me that the mom needs to figure out the difference between things she shares and things she talks to her therapist about.

In some ways it’s just being courteous.  You wouldn’t go to someone’s house for dinner and say, “you know, this meal was ok, but the meal I made last night was much better.”  But, you could confide in your husband/partner or tell your therapist that you feel guilty that you liked your meal better.  Common Courtesy.

I really feel for the daughter.  Not only does she get the short end of mommy, but now she can read all about it online.  Mom blogger, I don’t fault you for how you feel, but how you chose to let everyone know. Too Much Information.

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2 Responses to “Playing Favorites – Should You Admit You Love One Child More?”

  1. Ash S says:

    this is probably one of the most upsetting things I’ve read so far today.. people need to stop turning to the internet like its their therapist and remember that shit is out there for EVERYONE to read.

  2. gfunnymoney says:

    ugh.. im grateful for any blessing in life much less a child!!


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